As a therapist failure is something that I commonly get asked about, both directly and indirectly. Feeling like a failure at times is a normal human experience. We can all feel like we are letting ourselves, or others, down at times throughout our lives. Here are the most common questions regarding failure that I get asked both inside and out-with my clinic.
For me reading is the supreme life hack. I can consume knowledge that likely took years to assemble in a matter of hours. I am struggling to think of a better way to empower myself more quickly or easily than that. Here are a handful of books that I have recently read that have inspired me, and the clients I work with, to cultivate healthier lifestyle habits, consider how to make decisions, and ultimately how to live.
When someone asks us ‘what do you do?’ we nearly always reply with our occupation. Work, for many of us, is much more than a job. It is the defining aspect of our life and thus of our identity. One of the things I have come to understand, however, is that our identity is multifaceted, fluid and dynamic. Identity is much more complex than we recognise at first glance. How we see ourselves, narrate our lives and share our story, is central to the issue of our identity.
As the days begin to lengthen, the plant world reawakens and the animal world birth their new generation our human impulse is to follow along and take our cues from nature. For many of us spring marks a change in routine and the beginning of a new cycle. As we retire our winter coat, change out our heavy duvets and dust down the shelves the important ritual of spring cleaning begins. This season, that evokes renewal and change, can also serve as a cue to spring clean our mind and take some time to shed any old unhelpful routines, thoughts, and behavioral patterns.
Psychologists are regularly berated for spending their workdays reaching blindingly obvious conclusions about the world, a criticism that is not entirely unwarranted. But when I tell you that loneliness is more than just a bad feeling, it is in fact more dangerous for our health than obesity and as deadly as smoking, you might be surprised. What can you do to escape the grips of loneliness? According to Psychologist John Cacioppo we should try EASE (ing) our way into healthy connections with others.